While it is scientifically true that all human beings are biological amalgamations of testosterone and estrogen, gender is--and remains--a static principle unless one undergoes hormone therapy and gender reassignment surgery. In truth, the gender of the partner one sleeps with only defines that person as much as he or she allows it to. It is clear from Ms. Cory's article that the primary judgment she suffers from is self-imposed. After all, would a truly confident person care about the accusatory looks or snickered whispers of the insensitive or ill-informed? Would that same person politicize what amounts to be an internal character flaw by writing an editorial in The Washington Post subtly blaming society-at-large for some perceived slight?
Building the body is healthy and can indirectly aid self-esteem, but it doesn't take the place of a good therapist. Ms. Cory should stop playing her version of Facebook's game of fifty-seven flavors of gender labels. It may be more fun and diverting than hitting the gym or those dusty law books at Georgetown, but her effort is ultimately counterproductive because it sees this issue through a divisive prism. Indeed, any observation with its roots in the politics of race, gender or class promotes alienation not understanding or acceptance. That's what truly makes this a queer issue.